Police relationships with community: a measure of trust?

“I wouldn’t want to be bothered with someone I couldn’t trust on a day-to-day basis." 

---Michelle Obama in interview on relationships 

Opinion based on facts
Non-white and poor people have an historically strained relationship with the police. It's sorta like a bad marriage, when a spouse cheats once, is forgiven, but she continues to cheat and cheat over and over again. Forgiveness is one thing; trust is another.

Suppose your spouse continually beat you in the head and you couldn't defend yourself, raped you, brutalized your body, or destroyed your self esteem and mental capacity to think logically. Would you divorce her and get a new woman?

Unfortunately, "we still need the police to keep us safe," some believe. But why do we continually see people running from the police, knowing they could be shot dead? Fear.

Then we read about white supremacists joining the military to learn how to klll others. They join the police force while being bonafide gang members, KKK, Neo-nazis, and PTSD victims. They have guns, tasers, bullet proof vests, handcuffs, billy clubs, cameras, and work in tandem with the justice/court/penal system.

They hold the dark (Watch that movie to really be scared!).

I've interacted with the police in a discussion group and have found this to be true:

1. They feel the media is after them, always portraying them in a negative light.

2. They don't feel valued.
3. They have discretion but seldom use it to the advantage of citizens.
4. They are not perfect but expect us to obey the laws.
5. They investigate citizens but do not release information unless they have to.
6. They act as officers of the court just like prosecuting attorneys.
7. They are under stress and feel they are not getting paid enough for the work they do.
8. They have a hard time respecting people who are not police or members of criminal justice system.
9. They want to police themselves.

How can we solve this problem?